From the very nature of a person who is a caregiver, it’s easy to realize that they have a strong desire to help others. However, they also tend to have difficulty asking for help themselves. There’s probably some university research study done somewhere that can talk about why this is, but when you’re talking about caregiver stress and the impact that it can have –not only on the caregiver but also the patient- it begs the question about why they tend to have a habit of avoiding asking for help.
For this article, we’re going to focus on the family caregiver. This would be the adult child or other relative who has agreed to care for an elderly loved one. They might have a full-time job or other responsibilities and that can cause some problems for them from the outset.
Yet they want to make sure that their loved one is safe and healthy within their own home, so they will do what they can to be there for them. They may go over to their loved one’s house in the morning before they go to work. They may stop at the patient’s home in the evening before they go home. They may even leave work, family functions, or other places when they are called. Over time, this is going to lead to an increased level of caregiver stress.
They may have other family members who could help, so why do so many of these caregivers not ask for it? For some, they don’t want to admit that caring for their loved one is too much for them. They might see that as a reflection on them or they may worry about how their loved one would take this revelation (they might feel that they are not loved enough or they are too much of a burden).
It could also be that they have a sense of pride, that asking for help is something of a badge of shame to wear.
In truth, if you’re a family caregiver and you’re experiencing a great deal of stress as a result, no matter what you might think, it is going to affect the quality of care you provide. If you want the best for your elderly loved one, the best thing that you could do would be to step up and admit that you need help. Family matters, and so does the quality of care. Don’t let your ego or pride get in the way of that; learn to ask for help, or accept it when offered, when you need it.
As the Regional Developer of SYNERGY HomeCare in Connecticut for the past several years Kiley again puts the customer’s needs first. Working with the four five SYNERGY HomeCare Connecticut offices, Danbury, Bristol, Stamford, East Haven and Fairfield, which he owns with his wife of 34 years,Laurie, he has lead the SYNERGY CareTeam to tremendous growth and continued success. Knowing first hand how health, aging and memory care issues can take a toll on a family, he is a very hands-on owner. He makes his cell phone available to all clients and their families providing more than just care, Kiley provides solutions to his client’s care needs and peace of mind to their family.
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