There are plenty of reasons why a caregiver may refuse help, but when they do it can actually lead to an increase in their stress levels. Caregiver stress is a very serious problem considering the millions of family caregivers and other private caregivers that are working with elderly individuals.
Some of the most common reasons why a caregiver refuses help are:
They want to protect the patient. A family member may refuse to consider hiring a professional or to ask for outside help because they believe they can do best. Often, even if you are very skilled at caregiving, if you don’t have the time to devote to the patient, it can reduce the overall quality of the care they receive.
They are competitive. People who are competitive may refuse help because they feel that would be accepting defeat. They end up putting their personal needs ahead of the needs of the patient. It could have something to do with trying to win over the patient or other family members or to make other people believe they are superior, but whatever the ultimate cause of their competitive nature, refusing help puts not only them at an increased risk but also the patient.
Worried about strangers. When it comes to outside help, if someone doesn’t know a potential caregiver, they may not even consider them to work with their loved one. The idea that a stranger coming to assist their elderly loved one may be too much for some people to want to bear, so they take on the role themselves even the to the point of burning out due to caregiver stress.
Financial stress. When someone or a family is under incredible financial pressure, the notion of hiring outside help is something that they don’t even want to consider. If you are struggling to pay your bills, hiring an outside professional caregiver might seem out of the question. Yet there are other ways to receive adequate help other than through professional services.
Guilt. Guilt is one of the most powerful motivating factors and is one of the leading reasons why family members take on the role of caregiving for an elderly loved one. Coupled with any number of the reasons listed above and you have a potent combination that can lead to an increased risk of caregiver stress.
If you have an elderly loved one who requires assistance, find a way to accept help when it is needed and offered. It will help the senior get the care and services he or she really needs to be safe and healthy at home.
As the Regional Developer of SYNERGY HomeCare in Connecticut for the past several years Kiley again puts the customer’s needs first. Working with the four five SYNERGY HomeCare Connecticut offices, Danbury, Bristol, Stamford, East Haven and Fairfield, which he owns with his wife of 34 years,Laurie, he has lead the SYNERGY CareTeam to tremendous growth and continued success. Knowing first hand how health, aging and memory care issues can take a toll on a family, he is a very hands-on owner. He makes his cell phone available to all clients and their families providing more than just care, Kiley provides solutions to his client’s care needs and peace of mind to their family.
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