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Just for Your Parents: Separating the Services of a Live-In Care Provider from the Needs of the Rest of the Family

Live-in Care for Seniors in Fairfield, CT

LIve-in Care for SeniorsMaking decisions about the elder care approach that is right for your parents is one of the greatest challenges of being a family caregiver. You want to feel confident your elderly parents are getting the compassionate, attentive, and thorough care they need, but you also want to be sure they continue to enjoy the highest level of independence and quality of life possible. Your involvement does not stop there, however. As a family caregiver it is your responsibility to not only choose the best care approach, but also to maintain the integrity and effectiveness of this care relationship.

For some seniors, live-in care offers the ideal level of care for their ongoing needs. With this type of care, there is a care provider in the home with the parents 24 hours a day, though 8 of those hours are designated as sleep hours for the care provider and others in the evening and morning should be set aside for personal time. Though this 24-hour care provider does not actually move in with your aging parents, having 2 or 3 care providers who rotate shifts means there is always care available, even if there is an emergency during the night.

With a care provider in the home 24 hours a day, it is easy to blur the lines between her actual responsibilities and other tasks around the home. This is particularly true if your elderly parents have transitioned into living in your home with your spouse and children and will receive care from their live-in care providers there. In this situation, protecting the integrity and effectiveness of the care relationship between the care providers and your parents means making distinct separations between the care they provide for your parents and the needs of the rest of the family.

Use these guidelines to ensure your family understands the services of the live-in care providers are for your aging parents and that you separate the rest of the family’s needs from your parents’ needs:

Use a separate hamper. Doing light laundry is a service most live-in care providers offer for their clients. This ensures they have clean clothing and linens for a comfortable, healthy home. This does not mean, however, that they should be responsible for large amounts of laundry and they should never do laundry for any other member of the family. Designate a separate hamper only for your parents’ clothing, linens, and towels

Wash your own dishes. Do not expect to just slip your dinner dishes on the counter and let your live-in care provider take care of them along with her and your parents’ dishes. If you have a dishwasher, instruct everyone to rinse their own dishes and place them in the dishwasher for washing. If you do not, make sure you assign a member of the family to wash the dishes, or make each person responsible for their own

Prepare meals separately. Part of a live-in care provider’s compensation is room and board, meaning you are responsible for providing her with food or a food allowance. Though she may prepare meals for herself and your elderly parents throughout the day, she should not be expected to prepare meals for other members of the family. If your family eats dinner together, either prepare the meal for everyone yourself or order food for everyone. The care provider should be allowed to eat with the family if she wants to, and should if she needs to offer eating assistance to your parents, but some may feel more comfortable eating on their own

Use separate child care. Never leave your children under the care of your parents’ live-in care provider. Even if they are in their rooms sleeping or otherwise occupied, you must provide separate care for them. If your children are old enough to come home from school without supervision, that is acceptable, but do not expect the live-in care provider to offer any type of care or entertainment outside of what she is already doing with your parents.

If you or an aging loved one are considering live-in care for seniors in Fairfield, CT or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Fairfield, CT at 203-923-8866.

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Jay Kiley

Jay Kiley has spent over well over 30 years providing world class customer service to clients around the world. Whether it was during his career in banking as asenior officer with Fortune 500 companies or working with some of the wealthiest people in the world with the Superyacht Rigging Company he owned with his brother; customer service was and is first and foremost.

As the Regional Developer of SYNERGY HomeCare in Connecticut for the past several years Kiley again puts the customer’s needs first. Working with the four five SYNERGY HomeCare Connecticut offices, Danbury, Bristol, Stamford, East Haven and Fairfield, which he owns with his wife of 34 years,Laurie, he has lead the SYNERGY CareTeam to tremendous growth and continued success. Knowing first hand how health, aging and memory care issues can take a toll on a family, he is a very hands-on owner. He makes his cell phone available to all clients and their families providing more than just care, Kiley provides solutions to his client’s care needs and peace of mind to their family.

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