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You May Be a ‘Long-Distance Caregiver,’ but Stress Will Still Affect You

Caregiver Stress in Fairfield CT

Caregiver Stress Living more than a thousand miles away from your mother has never really seemed like a big deal. You kept in touch with her, spoke to her on the phone at least once a week, and visited a few times a year. You have a good job, a great family, and a strong support system. When your mother was hospitalized, you knew you were the only one who was going to be willing to step up and help support her.

Perhaps you didn’t think about any other option. Home care was something abstract, something you didn’t want to consider because that would mean you didn’t care enough to take care of your mother yourself.

You went to visit her in the hospital, sat down with her and her doctor, and understood what it was going to take for her to recover properly. She might be strong enough to take care of herself, but the doctor still recommended somebody helping her on a daily basis. You took a couple weeks off from your job to help her settle in.

That seemed to be enough. When you finally were heading out, ready for your trip home, you felt confident she would be fine, and you would check in on her every day. You called her in the morning to make sure she was not having difficulty getting out of bed, in the afternoon, and the evening. You offered her reminders about medications, exercise that she needed to do, and other things going on, including appointments.

Within a week or two after you returned home, you began to worry about her. There were times when you would call and there would be no answer. You became a bit frantic, imagining her lying on the floor, injured, unable to reach the phone.

She eventually called you back and everything seemed fine, but day after day of this routine started to cause you increased stress and anxiety. You were trying to convince your mother to stop doing certain activities, and that was creating tension between the two of you.

Your mother has every right to live her life on her terms. Though you may assume she’s putting herself at risk, it’s still her life. Being a long-distance caregiver is not practical in many situations and can, in fact, increase stress for not just you, the caregiver, but also the senior relying on you.

The best thing you can do is sit down and have an honest conversation about home care support services. A home care aide is always the better option.

If you or an aging loved one are considering home care in Fairfield, CT, or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Fairfield, CT at 203-923-8866.

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Jay Kiley

Jay Kiley has spent over well over 30 years providing world class customer service to clients around the world. Whether it was during his career in banking as asenior officer with Fortune 500 companies or working with some of the wealthiest people in the world with the Superyacht Rigging Company he owned with his brother; customer service was and is first and foremost.

As the Regional Developer of SYNERGY HomeCare in Connecticut for the past several years Kiley again puts the customer’s needs first. Working with the four five SYNERGY HomeCare Connecticut offices, Danbury, Bristol, Stamford, East Haven and Fairfield, which he owns with his wife of 34 years,Laurie, he has lead the SYNERGY CareTeam to tremendous growth and continued success. Knowing first hand how health, aging and memory care issues can take a toll on a family, he is a very hands-on owner. He makes his cell phone available to all clients and their families providing more than just care, Kiley provides solutions to his client’s care needs and peace of mind to their family.