What is it like to have a guilty conscience? Ask most people and while they may initially deny having a guilty conscience about anything, they really understand what the experience is like. At some point in our life, almost all of us have felt guilty about something. It might have been as a child trying to hide evidence of the broken lamp from our parents. As a student, we made have felt guilty because we didn’t study as hard as we should have or let someone down. As an adult, we may have omitted certain types of information from a job application or from a loved one with a little white lie.
Guilt is a powerful motivator, but it shouldn’t be the primary motivator in becoming a family caregiver. Unfortunately, for some of the estimated 44 million family caregivers in the United States (Forbes), guilt is a motivating factor for them to do this type of work.
How are we guilted into looking after a loved one?
It might be a parent who needs assistance. We may live in the same town. It makes sense that we stop by and help them with whatever tasks they need done. They might need some items picked up from the grocery store. They might need something taken down from the attic. They may need the gutters cleaned up.
Whatever it is, if we say no we might hear it from our brother or sister, our mother or father, other family members across the country, or our own conscience. After all, it’s not like they’re asking for help every single day, are they?
At first they might not, but eventually when people are struggling daily with their own basic care, and when they begin getting help, they often rely on that assistance more and more frequently as the days turn into weeks, which slowly turn into months.
For those who feel guilty about the prospect of not supporting a loved one through this difficult time in their life, that’s the wrong motivator. It doesn’t mean they have to ignore calls for assistance, but there are other alternatives.
Home care support is one of them.
Relying on a home care aide through an agency is one of the best options for people to consider. It can help the family caregiver avoid guilt and it can help the senior get the care he or she really needs, and it can even provide a foundation for the senior to pursue certain activities their loved one may have discouraged them from doing because of their physical or health related challenges.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering hiring home care to reduce caregiver stress in Trumbull, CT, please contact the caring staff at Sovereign Home Health today. Call today (203) 642-1924.
Sovereign Home Health is focused on caring for our clients throughout Connecticut and Northern, New Jersey.With two locations and services ranging from our personal care and companion care services to our 24/7 Never Alone Care, our specially trained and certified in-home caregivers can provide you with the care and freedom you or your loved one deserve.
Each of our clients has different care needs, and Sovereign Home Health provides a range of services that can be customized to fit their unique, individual client needs. To learn more about Sovereign Home Health or to set up a free comprehensive consultation, contact us today.
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